Something related to amnesia.?

hello friends!!

i am very new here so don't have any friend whom i can ask about amnesia so i'm asking to you all..

i'm a 17 years old,school going girl.



3 months back,i had a car accident. our driving,who was driving the car

is dead(spot death). but i'm survived.

i passed one month in hospital n just 20 days in coma.but i don't remember about that,at all. i had killing pain in my head for 3 month,still it's going on...but i can bear it,

but the most paining part is my past. i don't know who i am actually.

when i open my eyes in hospital after coming back from coma,the person i saw 1st,was my dad. but i didn't recognize him.

i don't remember anything about my past..n it hurts.



i'm always depressed n afraid of something. i feel that i must die even i tried to kill myself but!! i don't know what to do. i can't inolve with anyone,i feel that everyone is my enemy(but actually people loves n support me) but i am not abl to think positive. i'm getting mad in every single second.

well my studies is going fine but i'm not that strong in study anymore,no confidence is left in me.i feel like i'm just a statue...no life inside!!

i don't know what to do now..please somebody help you..

rather i will have no way except to commit suicide coz i can't live like this...it's hellll!!!!!!!!Something related to amnesia.?
First off, lets get suicide out of your head, trust me friend it is not worth it, secondly let is try a few things, try to ask tjhe people around you to bring things of familiar to you liek a picture or a doll, or something, then try to get someone to say something familiar that you recognize easily like if someone did something ervery so often before the whole incident. This will most likley jog you memory, but mainly try goin through an old photoalbum or somefamily movies or if you have a vlog or something go check it out, hope this helps and I truly do hope you get your memory back.Something related to amnesia.?
Wow, this does sound difficult and painful...

I am wondering what might be helpful or what I would do , and here are my ideas...

I think you should ,really, go to the EFT, emo site below and find a therapist there to help you get thru this.. this is a fabulous method of healing , the basic method is FREE, something you can do yourself, in the manual and watching the free videos.. BUT, it sounds like you would be most helped if you can come up with the fee (which are lower than regular therapists) and find one of the therapists there , trained in this, to help you heal.... this method is fabulous, works quickly, and effectively removes trauma, and other problems.......

So , I really think that is where you need to start...

Many doctors use EMDR , which is similar method, but in my opinion , less effective and more expensive...

You, as you know are dealing with trauma, and brain trauma..

I think your amnesia is based in the trauma, our bodies and minds SHUT down when we become too overwhelmed to deal with pain, and then they gradually turn back on as we feel better, and can cope.... that is another reason i am mentioning the EFT to you... there doesnt have to be any PAIN involved, or reliving the experience to heal it, like so many other therapys do... NONE of that.. but you need someone who knows how...

I have an idea... why not just write to the founder of this method, his name is Gary Craig, and he can be reached at gary@emofree.com and tell him exactly what you have said here...... and ask his recommendations or if he will help you initially, then who he recommends, etc.. or let him know you would (if you would) do a video, or trade that for his help....

he might be interested in this...

and you need help as soon as possible.. so i hope you just go there, right now...

I honestly believe our bodies and minds want to heal and be well, and the chances are this will happen more and more for you...

In the mean time, all you have to do , is wait it out and get as healthy as possible...

Please, also look up CELL FOOD RNA DNA at lumina dot com and start taking that , a powerful healing supplement for the brain, body, etc...

take care, I wish you totally well,, just wait it out....

Here are some support groups with people to talk to, who have been thru it, also, run by doctors...

and start eating healthy,etc..... I believe just from what you have said here, and how you said it, you will heal... I hope you do

PS. I have had to wait things out, once for several years, but i feel a lot better now.. you can too....

You will most likely have to rebalance your hormones , one day, by specialists, because they will most likely need it after all this....

If you need a comprehensive exam after the EFT thing, then go to Dallas, Texas, the PNP center with DR. Lawlis.... and they will do a great job of letting you know what is going on with you... he is drphil.com sidekick......Something related to amnesia.?
Amnesia is it. Pieces are missing from your memory.

It also sounds as if you have had a "head injury", which can add even more symptoms.



I am just amazed that you can still do your school work at this time.

You can "come back" from injuries like this. I have a friend who has.



Some of what happens with the anger.....with a head injury many of the "learned skills" like anger, reading, math, patience, remembering how to find things, "holding it" till you make it to the bathroom, sometimes speech and vocabulary, managing emotions, sometimes skills like walking, brushing your teeth, brushing your hair, folding laundry, even writing your own name.........these are all things you learned gradually when you were younger. They were lost when you were injured - and will need to be learned over again. (It will probably be easier this time or quicker) This is frustrating though, for you, and for people who care about you.



I remember a car-bumper-sticker from years ago.

PLEASE BE PATIENT - I'M PEDDLING AS FAST AS I CAN



Does it feel like this describes you?

I have an idea for you. It is something I used for my daughter's amnesia and associated problems.



Using colorful 3X5 cards, I made COMMUNICATION CARDS for her to keep in a little folder and carry with her. There were times when she couldn't find the words she wanted to say - or speaking the words might be embarrassing in a group of people. Mom, Dad, Teachers were handed a single card with the message written out. It was that easy to communicate

"I'm scared"

"I need to sleep"

"I'm angry"

"Please, can I do this later?"

"I'm having flashbacks"

" I have an intense headache"

"I'm thinking about dying"

"Hug, Please"

"I don't understand"

"I need to be alone"

"I just peed my pants"

"Call my Mom/Therapist"

"Please take a walk with me"

"I need help"

"I can't remember where I am"



You get the idea of some of the things that need to be said, you also understand why some of these things need to be said privately.

My family found that the communication cards were so helpful, all the younger sisters wanted their own set of cards with stickers and messages on them!



Everything you have said about how you feel and what you think is to be expected for coma/head injury patients to deal with. Coming-back IS HARD WORK. You can do it though.

Friends and family are willing to be patient with you.

What is hard is to learn to be patient with yourself. Trusting is difficult.

Your emotions can't be trusted right now. It's hard to figure things out.

The memory of how to do it or where to find it or who that person is - just isn't there for you right now....GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION to move a little slower than the other people around you.



Counseling/Therapy every week is really important for you right now. You can say things - like what you've said in your question '- to your therapist that you might not say to your mom. Your therapist will be on your side, to explain things, to talk to your Mom for you, and to encourage you.



Group therapy with other coma/head injury patients each week is also a wise thing to participate in. It helps you to forgive yourself for being slow or angry, or forgetting. You can also find friends there who understand what you are feeling, because they are going through the same things.



Realizing your perceptions and emotions can't be trusted right now, will help to "excuse yourself" and "forgive yourself" - learning to wait can for it to go away is not an easy thing to do. BUT you can do this!!!



There is HOPE for you, and a future. Hang on girl!